Wedding Planning can start to become more stressful when you start questioning how COVID-19 is going to impact your special day. There are many “what if” scenarios that can increase stress and anxiety such as:
1. What if I have to reschedule or postpone my wedding? This question in itself can lead to feelings of uneasiness. When planning a wedding, one of the first things you pick is the date you want to marry the love of your life. Changing your date can be daunting and disappointing, know it’s okay to experience these emotions. Lean on your partner for support and start to communicate about additional options to consider for your special day.
2. What if I have to inform all of my guests about the date change? When planning a wedding, there are so many loved ones who want to celebrate with you on your special day. Once you identify an alternative date, explore stationary options where you can mail or email a standard message to guests informing them about the postponement due to unforeseen circumstances. You can also notify guests about the change through your wedding website. Once correspondence is shared, your next step is to determine which guests will still be in attendance.
3. What if my guests are no longer able to attend? This may be an additional question that comes to mind due to postponing your wedding. Guests will be notified of the change in date and will look at their schedules to see if they will be able to attend. Due to circumstances surrounding COVID-19, some guests may not be able to attend due to travel or health concerns. However, most guests will rearrange their schedules to ensure they are still able to be there. You or your wedding planner can also reach out to hotels in the area to make changes to hotel accommodations and inform guests about this as well. This will help guests with ensuring they have a place to stay once schedules are rearranged. For wedding guests who aren’t able to attend, they can still show support by sending heart-felt cards and gifts to you on the wedding day. Although this is not the same as them being present, it is a way for them to show their love for you and your significant other.
4. What if one of my bridal party members are no longer able to participate in the wedding? Finding out one of your bridal party members are unable to attend the wedding due to travel and/or health concerns is another stressor that can impact your overall mood. With this in mind, think about what you can and can’t control in this unexpected situation. You and your partner can start to plan other ways to coordinate the ceremony and reception given someone’s absence. The processional order may have to be altered or the person delivering the wedding speech may have to be changed. Although changes may occur, the wedding can still continue and be one of the happiest days of your life.
5. What if my vendors aren’t available on my new wedding date? This is another question that can cause an increase in frustration. Once you identify a new date, contact your vendors to explore more about their availability. Review your contracts. Most vendors are flexible due to circumstances surrounding COVID-19 and are allowing couples to reschedule their wedding day, penalty-free. If you have a wedding planner, they can assist with making phone calls and communicate with vendors about next steps. If there are vendors who are unable to accommodate the new date, your wedding planner can assist you with identifying other vendors who have similar styles to the ones you previously selected.
There are many what-ifs that can come to mind when rescheduling a wedding due to COVID-19. However, the “what ifs” can add to your anxiety and diminish practices of self-care. If you are in the process of planning your wedding, create contingency plans with your significant other as well as your wedding planner. Contingency plans are a great way to challenge what-if questions and allow you to manage stress in a more effective way.